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From "When Harry Met Sally" (one of my all time favorite
movies): Billy Crystal as Harry: Friday,
Helen comes home from work, and she says, 'I don't know if I want to be married anymore.' Like it's the institution,
you know, like it's nothing personal, just something she's been thinking about in a casual way. I'm calm, I say,
'Why don't we take some time to think about it?' You know, don't rush into anything. Next day, she says she's
thought about it, and she wants a trial separation. She just wants to try it, she says. But we can still date, she says, like
this is supposed to cushion the blow. I mean, I got married so I could stop dating, so I don't see where 'we can still
date' is a big incentive, since the last thing you want to do is date your wife, who's supposed to love you, which
is what I'm saying to her when it occurs to me that maybe she doesn't, so I say to her, 'Don't you love me
anymore?' and you know what she says? 'I don't know if I ever loved you.'
Harry: Right now everything is
great, everyone is happy, everyone is in love and that is wonderful! But you gotta know that sooner or later you're gonna
be screaming at each other about who's gonna get this dish. This eight dollar dish will cost you a thousand dollars in
phone calls to the legal firm of That's Mine, This Is Yours. Harry: 'Cause someday, believe it or not, you'll go 15 rounds over who's
gonna get this coffee table. This stupid, wagon-wheel, Roy Rogers, garage sale COFFEE TABLE!
Sally: When Joe and I started seeing each other, we wanted exactly the same thing. We wanted
to live together, but we didn't want to get married because every time anyone we knew got married, it ruined their relationship.
They practically never had sex again. It's true, it's one of the secrets that no one ever tells you. I would sit around
with my girlfriends who have kids - and, actually, my one girlfriend who has kids, Alice - and she would complain about how
she and Gary never did it anymore. She didn't even complain about it, now that I think about it. She just said it matter-of-factly.
She said they were up all night, they were both exhausted all the time, the kids just took every sexual impulse they had out
of them. And Joe and I used to talk about it, and we'd say we were so lucky we have this wonderful relationship, we can
have sex on the kitchen floor and not worry about the kids walking in. We can fly off to Rome on a moment's notice. And
then one day I was taking Alice's little girl for the afternoon because I'd promised to take her to the circus, and
we were in the cab playing "I Spy" - I spy a mailbox, I spy a lamp-post - and she looked out the window and she
saw this man and this woman with these two little kids. And the man had one of the little kids on his shoulders, and she said,
"I spy a family." And I started to cry. You know, I just started crying. And I went home, and I said, "The
thing is, Joe, we never do fly off to Rome on a moment's notice." Harry: And the kitchen floor?
Sally: [sadly] Not once. It's this very cold, hard Mexican ceramic tile.
Sally: He just met her... She's supposed to be his transitional person,
she's not supposed to be the ONE. All this time I thought he didn't want to get married. But, the truth is, he didn't
want to marry me. He didn't love me. Harry: If you could take him back now, would you? Sally:
No. But why didn't he want to marry me? What's the matter with me? Harry: Nothing. Sally:
I'm difficult. Harry: You're challenging. Sally: I'm too structured,
I'm completely closed off. Harry: But in a good way. Sally: No, no, no,
I drove him away. AND, I'm gonna be forty. Harry: When? Sally: Someday.
Harry: In eight years. Sally: But it's there. It's just sitting there,
like some big dead end. And it's not the same for men. Charlie Chaplin had kids when he was 73. Harry:
Yeah, but he was too old to pick them up.
From the movie "The Holiday" (2006): Kate Winslet: Iris: I've found almost everything ever written about
love to be true. Shakespeare said "Journeys end in lovers meeting." What an extraordinary thought. Personally, I
have not experienced anything remotely close to that, but I am more than willing to believe Shakespeare had. I suppose I think
about love more than anyone really should. I am constantly amazed by its sheer power to alter and define our lives. It was
Shakespeare who also said "love is blind". Now that is something I know to be true. For some quite inexplicably,
love fades; for others love is simply lost. But then of course love can also be found, even if just for the night. And then,
there's another kind of love: the cruelest kind. The one that almost kills its victims. Its called unrequited love. Of
that I am an expert. Most love stories are about people who fall in love with each other. But what about the rest of us? What
about our stories, those of us who fall in love alone? We are the victims of the one sided affair. We are the cursed of the
loved ones. We are the unloved ones, the walking wounded. The handicapped without the advantage of a great parking space!
Yes, you are looking at one such individual. And I have willingly loved that man for over three miserable years! The absolute
worst years of my life! The worst Christmas', the worst Birthday's, New Years Eve's brought in by tears and valium.
These years that I have been in love have been the darkest days of my life. All because I've been cursed by being in love
with a man who does not and will not love me back. Oh god, just the sight of him! Heart pounding! Throat thickening! Absolutely
can't swallow! All the usual symptoms. My favorite quote: Iris: I understand feeling
as small and as insignificant as humanly possible. And how it can actually ache in places you didn't know you had inside
you. And it doesn't matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink
with your girlfriends... you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you
could have misunderstood. And how in the hell for that brief moment you could think that you were that happy. And sometimes
you can even convince yourself that he'll see the light and show up at your door. And after all that, however long all
that may be, you'll go somewhere new. And you'll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again. And little pieces
of your soul will finally come back. And all that fuzzy stuff, those years of your life that you wasted, that will eventually
begin to fade. Arthur
Abbott: Iris, in the movies we have leading ladies
and we have the best friend. You, I can tell, are a leading lady, but for some reason you are behaving like the best friend.
Iris: You're so right. You're supposed to be the leading lady of your own life, for god's
sake! Arthur, I've been going to a therapist for three years, and she's never explained things to me that well. That
was brilliant. Brutal, but brilliant. Iris: Because you're
hoping you're wrong. And every time she does something that tells you she's no good, you ignore it. And every time
she comes through and suprises you, she wins you over, and you lose that argument with yourself, that she's not for you.
Miles: Exactly, and on top of that there's the old standby, I can't believe a girl like that
would actually be with a guy like me.
From "Juno" Mac MacGuff: In my opinion, the best thing you can do is find a person who
loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you, the right person will still
think the sun shines out your ass. That's the kind of person that's worth sticking with. From "Swingers" Rob: You don't look at the things that you have, you only look at the
stuff that you don't have. Those guys are right about you - you're money. Mike: Then why won't
she call? Rob: She won't call because you left. she's got her own life to deal with, man, and
that's in New York... alright? And she's a sweet girl, and I love her to pieces, but fuck her, man. You gotta get
on with your life. You gotta let go of the past. And Mikey, when you do, I'm telling you: the future is beautiful, alright?
Look out the window. It's sunny every day here. It's like manifest destiny. Don't tell me we didn't make it.
We made it! We are here. And everything that is past is prologued to this. All of the shit that didn't kill us is only
- you know, all that shit. You're gonna get over it. Mike: How did you get over it? I mean, how
long did it take? Rob: Sometimes it still hurts. You know how it is, man. It's like, you wake up
every day and it hurts a little bit less, and then you wake up one day and it doesn't hurt at all. And the funny thing
is, is that, this is kinda wierd, but it's like, it's like you almost miss that pain. Mike:
You miss the pain? Rob: Yeah, for the same reason that you missed her... because you lived with it
for so long.
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